I’ve lived in many homes, foster homes, an orphanage, with my adoptive family, student housing, shared an apartment with my ex, with roommates, and now, finally, a home of my own. I’ve learned that a house isn’t always safe, and a safe space isn’t always physical.

Often, the biggest factor in emotional safety is the mindset of the person offering the space.

That’s where Section 2 of The Safe Home Starter Guide comes in: Self-Awareness.

Ask yourself:

• What beliefs or biases am I carrying?

• How do I respond when I feel discomfort?

• Do I hold power in ways I’m not acknowledging?

These are big questions, but they’re necessary. When we don’t look inward, we risk projecting unspoken rules or unmet needs onto the people sharing our space. That’s how emotional tension grows, and trust breaks down.

A safe home is one where people are allowed to be different, without being diminished.

I know what it’s like to feel like a guest in your own life. That’s why I created this guide, to help you offer more than shelter. To help you offer dignity.

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